Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Improvement!

It seems there may be light at the end of the proverbial tunnel. Yesterday I drew up a chart for Cody and Jamie and showed it to Cody. It involved a system where he would get a sticker or smiley face for each morning that he did not come in our room and wake us up, or, he would get an X if he did wake us up and steal food in the morning, etc. Then, when he gets three stickers in a row, he gets a privilege, like using the iPad, or watching a TV show, or playing Wii, for a short amount of time. He was really pumped about this challenge, though he said it would be hard for him. This morning, the boys were WAY better. I did not get woken up until some time after 7 a.m. and even though I was up by 7:30 a.m. it did not feel nearly as horrible when I had not been awake since 5:30 or 6 a.m. The downside was that Cody "accidentally" came in after a while and took Mike's iPhone. Sheesh. So he blew it today, but I still told him how much better he did and told him we would work out some kind of reward. This way they learn that things like TV and video games are not a given. They are not something they are allowed to do all the time. They are special privileges only, and will be earned. They will also be administered in short doses only, like half an hour. I will make exceptions when they are sick.

The other thing I did was put specific snacks out for them at their places at the table. I have tried that before, but today it seemed to work, for some reason. Wow. What a difference it made to not wake up angry today. I feel so much better. There is room for more improvement of course, but still. Wow. That is my update for the day. I am in the midst of a bit of a frenzy of activity right now preparing for my weekend away as well as preparing for another possible weekend away in three weeks. Cody is at school and there is not that much time left before I will have to go and get him, so I have to sign off.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hooray for positive starts! I hope this continues for you, it sure makes life easier when Mama's happy! teehee! If Cody catches on then Jamie shouldn't be too far behind, those younger ones learn quickly from their older siblings (the good AND the bad!). Have a great weekend away.
Anita K

Jo said...

WOW! YEah. Sometimes a little prep really works out well. You may need to lock up the "I" things so there is no temptation to get them. They just can't.
I have a great hanging organizer from "Melissa & Doug" with wooden and magnetic tasks and smiles, etc. If I can somehow get it to Gregg's folks before Angie has the baby, I'll send it to you. It's too heavy and big to send in the mail, you'd be better off buying new. We don't use it anymore and your boys may like it. I will remember this if I see his folks before then. Keep going, I'm sure your sis's in law could share some boy type insights...so much energy!

CAT said...

Thanks for your encouragement, girls. I did decide yesterday that I would like to approach this stay-at-home mom thing in a more proactive way. I'm going to maybe do some planned activities every day and that type of thing, just to keep things exciting for the boys around here. I made a volcano with them today and they loved it.

Jo, that organizer thing sounds great. If it works out, that would be awesome.